Relationship Counselling
Counselling can help couples resolve their differences constructively, enhance their relationship, develop positive parenting plans, and if separating do so without undermining one another.
Couples who come to counselling often say they were reluctant about the idea at first, but once they got started, it turned out to be a relief. Issues that had felt overwhelming became more manageable. Taking the initiative seemed to make things less scary, more possible, and more hopeful.
Counselling can help couples:
- Someone to manage the heat in your conversation, helping you keep civil and constructive.
- Trained observation and feedback to help you recognise and understand your own contribution to the state of the relationship.
- Ideas based on experience about what might make a difference.
- Information, perspectives and questions you might not have considered.
- Knowledge and experience about affairs, sex, parenting, anger, criticism, boredom, lack of time, arguing and many other issues that often challenge relationships.
- Someone who will really listen to both of you, and help you to both really listen to each other.
- Clarity about what each of you feels and thinks and wants.
- Help to recreate goodwill and romance.
- Reassurance that you are not the only couple with issues to sort out.
- Help to say difficult things to each other.
- Help to start mending things when one of you feels deeply hurt or betrayed.
- Help to separate if that's what you find you need to do.
Whether you want to start off well or fear your relationship is on the verge of ending couple counselling has the potential to increase your understanding and enjoyment of your relationship.
Counselling for separating/divorcing couples:
Counselling programs also help people who are separating and/or divorcing, to deal with their grief and anger and to let go, so that they can move on with a new sense of purpose and optimism. This includes looking at:
- how relationships change
- how to bear and manage grief
- what is the real value of anger
- what acceptance is and what it enables us to attain it
- discover a pathway for the separation
- learning to be "single"
- becoming able to face the prospect of a new and sustaining relationship.
Counselling and working through the problems of separation with someone who has no involvement or investment in the outcome can help people get through this difficult time.
In reality, many people live happy, fulfilled lives following a relationship breakdown. Many people choose to re-partner and many do not. Our counsellors are trained professionals. We employ a diverse group of people so you have a high chance of finding a counsellor you feel comfortable with and who has the skills and experience you want.